hai..since i am a umi with two kids so need to be responsible with our kids reaction.. perasan x kdg2 tu ank2 kita mmg tiru sebijik perangai kita even kita tahu habit kita tu teruk kn... i just read an article on how to stop yelling our kids by orange rhino..(sound interesting)
there are 12 step that we need to follow
1. CHANGE! !
2. SET A GOL spt berjanji tak membebel setahun ke
3. Kongsi matlamat dgn org lain esp family
4. CREATE SUPPORTER esp suami kita
5. Track your Triggers. This is the part no one wants to do, but needs to do! write down on orange post-it notes when we yelled, why we yelled, our mood, our kids mood, time of day etc.
6. Practice slowly
7.keep practising
8. Keep Goal top of mind. practically decorated the house and ourselves in orange for a month straight to keep our promise top of mind; Serve orange foods, wear orange, post sweet, gentle, “I can’t imagine yelling at that precious” baby pictures in problem areas, do whatever works to keep you focused on your goal.
9: Persevere when you yell.
10. Celebrate when you succeed. Any moment I didn’t yell was a success, even if I had yelled moments before, and I celebrated those moments with either a fist pump in the air (yes, I did that!) or posting on Facebook. Everyone needs visual positive reinforcement too; my countdown clock on my blog does that for me. Other ideas for you: Make an orange heart on a calendar for every day you don’t yell, put an orange m&m in a jar for every moment you don’t yell, place an orange post it note on the wall near where you didn’t yell. Get creative but praise yourself!
11: Stop Yelling, Start Thinking, Continue Calmly.And yes, despite all of the above, there are still moments where I feel a yell brewing. And then I turn to this mantra. STOP the Yell. (close my mouth, clench my hands, count to 10). START thinking (what’s the trigger, what calms me down, how can I proceed) and continue CALMLY
12: Remember that know that you are not alone, that I believe in you and that I am here to help you!
harap kita dpt mendidik anak2 dengan penuh kasih syg
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